Question: We’re a couple of weeks into the Coronavirus pandemic, without much sign of this “new normal” letting up for a while. Can you give me spiritual advice for this long-haul journey? Answer: I am writing this to myself as much as I’m writing it to you. It’s understandable we may be anxious or uncertain […]
Parenting in public
Question: We don’t have “Mommy wars” in our church, but there are obvious parenting differences that become apparent whenever families get together. The rambunctious kids get louder, and the quiet kids retreat to the room where the grown-ups are sometimes studying the Bible. Any ideas how to navigate our differences graciously? Answer: Before opening our […]
Is a secular support group a good idea?
Question: I think I need to find a grief support group, but none of the groups in my community are faith-based. Is there value in a support group where we won’t talk about Jesus? Answer: I’m sorry for your loss. When we suffer life’s inevitable losses, grief groups offer us a needed sense of community […]
Learning to trust
Question: I’ve heard the effects of childhood trauma may make it difficult for those who have experienced it to connect with God, or the church. How might a church leader “bridge the gap” for someone who has experienced trauma, regardless of the cause? Answer: People who have experienced childhood trauma are more likely to distance […]
Don’t limit God
Question: A counselor once encouraged me to build on my strengths, rather than my weaknesses. But isn’t an awareness of my sin part of being a Christian? I want to improve as a husband, father, and a believer. How can I balance building on my strengths while acknowledging my limitations? Answer: Strength is a gift […]