One of the most damaging mistakes we are making today is obsessing on where we want to be without getting honest about our current reality. Maybe Siri and Google Assistant have fueled the delusion. When we ask them for directions, they automatically launch directions to where we want to be from our current location. They […]
The joy (and pain) of letting go
It is hard to believe this is my 26th Father’s Day—as a father. It seems like yesterday I was changing Zachary’s first diaper. Ironically, I was much more confident in my parenting, say 10 years ago. Having two children grow up and move out confronted me with all the things I failed to get done […]
‘Respect’ and the marriage law we strongly oppose
Here’s another moment when we feel like Dorothy, convinced she’s not in Kansas anymore. We might say, “I’ve a feeling this is not the world it used to be, and I don’t like it!” This time it is passage of The Respect for Marriage Act by the U.S. Congress. It sure feels like another “nail […]
Pastoring people with sexual identity questions
I’ve had the conversation many times. Sometimes it’s with the person who says, “I think I’m gay.” Sometimes it’s with their friend or their parents. In our culture today, discussions about sexual identity are commonplace. It’s not only in large metropolitan areas. It’s here, it’s more public, and it’s growing among teens and young adults. […]